5 Powerful Tips to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Esteem 

Do you ever find yourself caught up in negative self-talk, doubting your abilities, or feeling like you’re not good enough? It’s a common experience, but it can take a toll on your mental health and well-being over time. Negative self-talk can make you feel anxious, depressed, and can even lead to physical health problems such as headaches, digestive issues, and insomnia. 

The good news is that you can take steps to overcome negative self-talk and build your self-esteem. Here are five powerful tips to get started: 

Identify Your Negative Self-Talk Patterns

The first step in overcoming negative self-talk is to become aware of it. Negative self-talk can be insidious, sneaking into our thoughts without us even realizing it. That’s why it’s essential to take a step back and pay attention to the messages you give yourself throughout the day. You can start by keeping a journal and writing down your thoughts and feelings. Whenever you notice negative self-talk, write it down and ask yourself why you’re thinking that way. 

Once you’ve identified your negative self-talk patterns, you can start to challenge them. For example, if you’re telling yourself, “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself if that’s really true. Look for evidence that contradicts that thought. Remember past successes and achievements. Remind yourself of the times when you’ve received positive feedback from others. These are all ways to challenge and reframe your negative self-talk. 

Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

It’s not enough to identify your negative self-talk patterns; you must also challenge them. Challenging negative thoughts means questioning the validity of the negative thought and replacing it with a more positive, realistic thought. For example, if you’re telling yourself, “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself if that thought is really true. What evidence do you have to support it? What evidence do you have that contradicts it? If you can’t come up with any evidence to support your negative thought, it’s time to let it go. 

Replacing negative thoughts with positive ones takes practice, but it’s an essential step in building self-esteem. For example, if you’re struggling with negative thoughts about your appearance, try repeating positive affirmations such as “I am beautiful just the way I am” or “I love and accept myself completely.” Over time, positive affirmations can help to rewire your brain and build a more positive self-image. 

Practice Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are a powerful tool for building self-esteem and overcoming negative self-talk. A positive affirmation is a statement about yourself that is positive, present-tense, and personal. For example, “I am confident” or “I am worthy of love and respect.” 

Positive affirmations work by replacing negative self-talk with positive, empowering messages. They help to build self-confidence and rewire your brain to focus on your strengths and positive qualities. You can use positive affirmations in many ways, such as writing them down, repeating them to yourself in front of a mirror, or even recording them and listening to them throughout the day. 

Celebrate Your Accomplishments

One of the best ways to build self-esteem is to focus on your strengths and accomplishments. It’s easy to get caught up in negative self-talk and focus on our flaws and shortcomings. But when you take the time to acknowledge your successes, no matter how small they may seem, you can boost your confidence and remind yourself of your worth. 

Celebrating your accomplishments can take many forms. You might celebrate by writing down your accomplishments in a journal or sharing them with a trusted friend or loved one. You might also give yourself a small reward, such as buying yourself a treat or taking some time to relax and do something you enjoy. 

The key is to focus on your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Did you complete a project at work on time? Did you try something new and challenging? Did you overcome a fear or obstacle? These are all accomplishments worth celebrating. 

Celebrate Your Accomplishments

Finally, practicing self-care is an essential component of building self-esteem and overcoming negative self-talk. Self-care means taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. It means making time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, reading, or spending time in nature. 

Self-care also means setting healthy boundaries and saying no to things that don’t serve your well-being. It means recognizing when you need help and reaching out to trusted friends, family members, or mental health professionals. 


In conclusion, overcoming negative self-talk and building self-esteem is a process that takes time and effort. But by identifying your negative self-talk patterns, challenging negative thoughts, practicing positive affirmations, celebrating your accomplishments, and practicing self-care, you can improve your mental health and well-being. 

Remember, building self-esteem is a journey, not a destination. Be kind and patient with yourself as you work to overcome negative self-talk and build a more positive, confident self-image. With time, practice, and commitment, you can learn to love and accept yourself just the way you are. 

About The Author

Dr. Leo is a highly-qualified and dedicated primary care physician who graduated from Manila Central University College of Medicine in 2018. He passed the Physician Licensure Exam in 2019, and has since gained valuable experience practicing in various settings such as being a company physician, doctor-on-duty for outpatient clinics, and a telemedicine practitioner. 


What sets Dr. Leo apart is his dual-certification as both a physician and a registered nurse, having passed the Philippine Nurse Licensure exam in 2012. He has a unique perspective on healthcare as he believes in taking a holistic approach addressing the root cause of an issue rather than just treating symptoms. He is dedicated to finding long-term solutions for current disorders and preventing new ones. 

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